In previous blogs, I shared how, as an adult, I used EFT tapping to neutralize the negative messages I received before the age of ten about writing and being a writer. This next roadblock was a biggie!
As my tenth grade school year came to an end, my English teacher offered me the option of taking a creative writing class the next year. I was very excited that my teacher noticed and appreciated my writing and invited me to this class. I felt like a window was finally opening for me to pursue something I loved.
When I excitedly told my parents the good news, my father told me that there was no point in taking the class, and it was stupid of me to think I could never make a living as a writer. He told me to take something "practical" instead, and I ended up in a typing class.
Now, don't get me wrong, typing is a great skill that I use every day! But I was truly heartbroken to have missed out on taking that class with my creative friends. I hadn't even been thinking of making a living as a writer, I just wanted to explore learning more about something I loved.
Now, as an adult who frequently uses tapping, this was a traumatizing event that I'd thought about many times over the years as an obvious roadblock when it came to my being a writer. I'd never really forgiven my father for telling me I couldn't take that class. I knew that this was why I ended up going to secretarial school instead of studying English at university. I knew this is why I didn't bother taking my desire to write seriously.
Here's some of the tapping I did to release the impact this event was still having on my life.
(This article assumes you have an understanding of the tapping process. If not, please scoot to my website for tapping instructions)
While tapping the karate chop point, repeat these statements:
- Even though my father said that I would never make a living as a writer, I accept myself anyway.
- Even though I learned not to bother trying to be a "real writer", somehow I wrote anyway.
- Even though I knew it wasn’t safe to talk about my dream to be a writer, I kept that dream to myself .
- Even though my parents didn’t expect much of me, and I didn't expect much of myself, I'd rather increase my expectations.
- Even though it's hard to forgive him for being so unsupportive, I'm going to forgive myself for believing him.
- Even though I had to learn to type what other people wrote instead of writing my own stuff, I'd rather move on from there.
While tapping on the tapping points, repeat these reminder phrases:
Eyebrow: He told me not to bother trying...
Side of Eye: It just wasn't safe to share my love of writing...
Under Eye: I kept my dreams to myself...
Under Nose: But somehow, I kept writing anyway...
Chin: I can't believe he squashed my dream that way...
Collar Bone: I never tried to become a "real writer" because I believed him...
Under Arm: I release that belief at a cellular level...
Top of Head: I'd rather feel safe with my dream of writing...
Eyebrow: He was unsupportive of things he didn't understand...
Side of Eye: I forgive myself for believing him...
Under Eye: I release that belief now at a cellular level...
Under Nose: I'm open to creative possibilities...
Chin: I'm willing to believe that my love of writing exists...
Collar Bone: Because I'm meant to keep writing...
Under Arm: I'd rather increase my expectations of myself...
Top of Head: And embrace my writerly self!
In addition to tapping on the messages received from my parents, I also had to address the regret that I felt at having missed taking the creative writing classes:
- Even though my friends enjoyed those classes and I had to take typing, it happened and it’s over and I'm writing anyway.
- Even though they wouldn’t let me pursue creative writing, I was creative anyway and wrote anyway.
- Even though I feel like I missed out, I deeply and completely accept myself.
- Even though they interfered, I am deeply grateful to the part of me that kept writing anyway.
Eyebrow: I can't believe I missed that class...
Side of Eye: And watched my friends enjoy it so much...
Under Eye: I release that devastation at a cellular level...
Under Nose: Somehow I kept writing anyway...
Chin: They interfered with my following my path...
Collar Bone: But I persisted and created a new path...
Under Arm: I'm so grateful to that persistent writer in me...
Top of Head: I'm a writer and I write.
So many creative people received messages as kids about the impracticality of following your dreams. As an adult, I know that looking back on my writing life and clearing the negative messages I’d received opened new pathways for me as a writer. Spoiler Alert: My Hay House book, The Tapping Solution for Teenage Girls is now available! In this book I guide the teenage reader to tap on the messages she received that kept her from following her dreams. If you have a teenage girl in your life who's a creative soul, but not expressing herself, this book is a perfect solution for her. Help her release her creative blocks now so she doesn't carry them into her adult like (like I did).
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I wrote a section for adults in my book, The Tapping Solution for Teenage Girls so that you can use the exercises in the book to resolve the teenage upsets that might be interfering with finding your own creative voice.
Bye for Now!
Keep being awesome!
~Christine
But there’s more. Join me for Part Four where I’ll share what happened when I did share my personal writing with someone close to me. Hopefully my tapping experiences will help you clear your own block to creative, soulful writing.